Processing the loss of a marriage is as challenging for adults as it is for children. Both kids and parents had imagined a future that is no longer going to come into fruition. To help you through this time in your life, consider talking to a mental health professional who can assist you with processing your emotions. The same goes for your children.
However, there are simple steps you can take to make the transition easier for everyone.
You’re Not Selfish
You cannot neglect or dismiss your emotional health and wellbeing. Putting yourself last for the sake of your children is noble, but it may not benefit anyone in the long term. When you put all your focus into yourself, your kids will suffer. The same goes for if you put 100% of your time into your children.
Support your kids, assist them during this difficult time, but remember to take care of yourself in the process. This could be as simple as ensuring you get enough sleep and eating nutrient-dense foods. To be the best parent, you need to be the best version of yourself.
Honesty Is For Everyone
This means that you should be honest with yourself, your friends and family, and your children. It isn’t ok, responsible, or healthy for you to say negative things about your ex in front of your children. But you should encourage your kids to be open with their feelings.
If your children say they are angry at you for moving out, don’t disregard what they say. Don’t tell them they can’t be mad, sad, or frustrated. Instead, try to figure out why they are feeling a certain way through empathetic listening. Encourage them to talk through an issue rather than cast it aside so they can process it.
Some Things Remain The Same
Rather than spending time, think about the things your children still have. If you and your spouse are co-parenting, remind your kids that they have two parents who love them. You may even still love your former spouse in some ways.
There are things that you did with your children that you can and will continue to do. The future you have together will be different, but it is still grounded in your love for one another.
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